Assertiveness and Bullying…
Building your self-confidence, self-esteem and assertiveness is not as difficult as you may think. Normal people do not generally want to try to transform into being a more assertive or dominant person. When I have been talking to my mentees and clients about them wanting to become more assertive in themselves, what they really want is to know how they can resist the pressures and dominance of other people they are meeting face to face with every day, how do they stand up to the bullies I am meeting every day in work and outside work? How will I be able to exert a little more control in situations that are particularly important to them.
I have found that assertiveness or dominance for the sake of being dominant is not generally a natural behaviour with most people. People are not naturally assertive; they tend to be passive by nature, whereas highly dominant people tend to be driven by their personality and very often their insecurity.
For anyone seeking to be more assertive it will help to understand a typical personality and the motivation of excessively dominant people, who by the way are the cause and worry to the large proportion of non-assertive people.
I feel it would be helpful at this point to explain the difference between good leadership and dominant leadership:
- Good leadership is very inclusive, it is a developing force that is right and correct; good leadership leads from the front and it does not dominate non-assertive people. However, it embraces them and involves them in forward-thinking and management decision making.
- Dominance as a management style is very ruthless and should never be allowed under any circumstances within modern business in 2020. It is typically based on short-term rewards and results, mainly for the benefit of the dominant leader. They frequently fail to take into account totally any member of the team and generally ride rough-shod over their employee’s ideas and abilities, completely forgetting the latent potential they have around them in their workforce.