Tuesday 22nd August 2017
Change, is the one question that is always being brought up by my clients. I’ve found that a lot of people really do have a loathing to face change. However, the change we generally resist is the kind that we think will make the situation worse rather than better. We are happy to change jobs when it means higher pay with more influence. So, it’s not change in general that we loathe; it’s the change that involves physical, emotional or psychological loss. Change is both inevitable and necessary. If everything stays the same, nothing is growing. We must learn to embrace change with our arms wide-open.
Very often you probably feel you’re failing at what you are doing, it may well be the negative thinking you’re having about yourself. Any type of thinking that leads to negative consequences. It can be hard to recognise negative thinking sometimes. You need to identify your negative thinking first and take that step towards changing your life for the better. Unfortunately, the truth is that most people are given to making negative affirmations. When you think repeatedly that you are not going to succeed in a project, it is a negative affirmation. Affirmations, both negative and positive impact the neurological functioning of the brain.
A fantastic way to change your thoughts is to appreciate and enjoy what you already have. I am not suggesting that you should not want for a better life. Enjoy whatever amount of success you have achieved instead of feeling sad about what you have not been able to achieve. There is nothing wrong with aiming to reach a higher benchmark or stretching to reach greater goals.
However, failure to reach them should not spoil your enjoyment of what you already have. It is one thing to achieve your goal; it is another to enjoy it after you have achieved it. It is impossible to change the world around you. So, stop fretting when people do not come up to your expectations. The best course is to change yourself or at least adjust with the people or situations you do not like.